Woman Rejects Long-Term Boyfriend's Proposals Twice, Insinuating She Will Say Yes 'Next Time,' Leading Him to End Relationship

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Oct 8, 2024 5:00 PM EDT

Welcome, gossiping goddesses. Planning the perfect proposal tailored to your partner's preferences takes a lot of time, effort, and creativity. While we all love to experience a bit schadenfreude watching proposal rejection videos on Instagram reels or YouTube shorts, being at the opposite end of the camera and being spurned by the one who you thought was the love of your life, is unequivocally harrowing, heartbreaking, and embarrassing. 
Women turn down proposals for all sorts of reasons, not just because they don't love the poor guy who got down on one knee with a ring. Sometimes it's just not the right time to make a commitment. But what if it's never the right time? In our story today, our protagonist is rejected twice by his girlfriend, but she insists that she will eventually say yes. However, playing guessing games is not his vibe, and he breaks it off. Scroll down for all the juicy details.

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  • 01
    r/AITAH u/chibitank 4h AITAH for ending my relationship after my girlfriend said no to marriage?
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    I(41M) have been dating my ex gf (39F) for nearly Six years. Our relationship was a good one. Four years ago I informed her family and friends I was going to propose to her while we were on a family vacation and received their blessing and well- wishes. The night I proposed, I tried to make the night as memorable and "perfect" as possible. I asked her after a nice dinner surrounded by the family, and she said "No, not yet anyways." I was quite hurt honestly and went back to our room to think thi
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    A few hours later she came to the room and asked me what was wrong and why I left the group. We had a fairly long conversation as to my feelings and her reason to deny my proposal. Turns out she didn't think I was ready for the commitment just yet. So I took her thoughts to heart and informed her I understand her reasoning, however I was raised in a way where "you take a no for a no, not a maybe next time."
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    She asked me to just wait a bit longer until we were in a stable place, and I agreed. Eight to ten months later she started dropping hints that she was ready to be married "I can't wait for our wedding...Our wedding is going to be spectacular...I am so looking forward to my dad walking me down the aisle"...etc. A little over a year since my first proposal, I decided to propose again, this time just us together after a wonderful date night. When I opened the ring box, she got really quiet and onc
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    After this second refusal, I fell out of love with her. It sounds cold, but it was the truth. When we got back home, I slept in our guest bedroom and spent the rest of the night thinking of our relationship. The next morning she asked why I didn't sleep with her in our bedroom, and I told her the truth, and informed her that I think we need to end the relationship. I informed her that I take marriage very seriously, and I do not want to be lead on and this time, this no...was the final no on the
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    I gave her a month to find a new place to live, and since then I have been receiving texts and emails from her friends and family informing me I am a and trying to get me to give her heartless more time, and not be a callous . My friends have my back on this, and understand why I ended the relationship.
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    AITAH? Edit: I have the time mixed up in reverse. I proposed after 4 years the first time. I apologize for the confusion. 4,636 1,499 D
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    omrmajeed • 4h NTA. She was stringing you along and being clearly disrespectful. Proud of you for standing up for yourself and seeing her for what she is actualling doing. Reply 2.9k
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    chibitank OP. 4h Honestly, I am upset at myself for not taking the first "No" as a "Not yet" I am still just getting used to this empty house. 1.3k
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    CountryGuy123⚫ 3h Don't beat yourself up too badly for that. It's OK that someone isn't ready for marriage. However, at 7 years and in your 40s, with the second it's obvious you both want different things. 514
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    Babyydoll_Liezel • 4h NTA. You communicated your desire for marriage clearly and gave your girlfriend ample time to consider. Her repeated rejections, despite expressing readiness, indicate a misalignment in your relationship goals. It's your right to end a relationship that doesn't fulfill your needs. ... Reply 2.1k
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    chibitank OP. 4h I just do not want to be a show pony and have that carrot dangled in front of my face, just to never get it. 11.4k
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    ShortThunder5145 • 4h NTA. You've been with her 6 years. She's turned down your proposal twice. You were right to end the relationship. She's not looking for marriage, just a sponsor. You want a wife. You removed yourself from a situation that did not benefit you. Congratulations to your future happiness. Be blessed! Reply 411
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    NTA BlueGreen 1956 • 4h She got a second chance to say "yes" which is more than I would have bothered with. You did the exact right thing. Tell her friends and family to off. ← Reply 258
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    NTA Cheekybelaa • 4h You've been in a tough situation, and your feelings are valid. You clearly communicated your desire for marriage, and her repeated refusals understandably affected your feelings. You set boundaries based on your values, which is crucial when it comes to commitment. While it's hard for both of you, you made a decision that aligns with your beliefs. It's natural for her friends and family to be upset, but prioritizing your needs doesn't make you heartless; you deserve a partne
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    GrumpyLump91 • 4h She doesn't want to marry you. Even if she were to come to you now and say yes, she wouldn't mean it and she would likely try and sabotage it. Some people just aren't cut out for marriage, and that's ok. Doesn't mean you need to be shackled to one of them if you do want marriage. ← ☑ Reply 157
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    Southern_Dig_9460 • 3h I agree OP she may comeback but will find some excuse to not to. Like every time OP and her gets in a argument she blackmail it like "this is why we shouldn't get married right now" ... 29
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    NYCStoryteller ⚫ 4h • No. She said YOU needed more time? Please. She's the one with cold feet. Six years is enough time to know. You're not it, and she's been wasting your time. You should have broken up after the first proposal. She's just unhappy with the consequences of being broken up with. Reply û 51 ♡
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    CandyLights⚫ 2h That was such a weird reason. If you feel your partner is not ready to be committed why would you stay with them for 6 years? ← D û 8 3
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    Graveyard Babe69 • 4h NTAH, you have the right to want marriage and if your girlfriend doesn't see that, then it's better to walk away now instead of wasting more time. Reply 20 ↓
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    bunny_rainbow • 2h It sounds like you really valued the idea of marriage, and it's okay to hold onto that. If she's not ready after two proposals, it makes sense to reassess the relationship. You deserve someone who shares your commitment to the future. ... Reply ↑ 17
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